Parenting and Beyond

How to Connect More with Your Little Boys

Every boy mom out there needs new, fun ways to connect with her son. Learn how one mom found a unique way to connect more with her little boys.

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As a boy mom I’m always looking for more ways to connect with my kids. Sure, if I’m willing to dig in the mud and build LEGO castles, I’m in. But sometimes a lady likes to stay clean for more than two hours post-shower, and I can only play with LEGO castles for so long. But I want to connect more with my little boys.

So the question is how do I connect with my kids more?

Well I have a story to share. And I would like to apologize in advance to my son in the future: I’m sorry that you are now an adult and this story is archived on the internet for all the world to see. I promise it was for a good cause.

Here’s The Story

Of course, this all starts with a story. One day we were driving home and my oldest son was in the back of the car tooting up a storm.

Seriously, it was bad.

We were kind of making jokes about it (because that’s what you do when you have a five-year-old boy) and then it hit me.

This could be an opportunity to connect more with my little boy.

So here’s what happened:

Me: “If you keep tooting in my car you’ll have a serious consequence!”

Him: “Like what?!”

Me: “Like I’m going to give you kisses for every toot you have in my car!”

He laughed and laughed and laughed. We both did. And when we got home I chased him around and gave him kisses and tickles for every “toot” he had that day.

And I have to tell you, he’s never been more gassy.

Sure it started out as a one time deal, but he loved it! And so did I (well not the gas part, but the connecting part). And it was a way for him to connect with me, and get positive attention from me, without actually having to ask for it.

How to Connect More with Your Little Boys

Since that day we play this game often and all of my boys think it’s the best game ever! All of them, even the baby laughs and laughs.

But here’s the secret, most of the time they start the game just because they want to play. They are desperate for a way to connect more with me.

They want to be kissed and chased and loved on. But they don’t want to come out and say “Mommy, I need a hug and a kiss.” So we play our little game instead.

Because boys want to connect with their mamas, they NEED to connect with their mamas, and sometimes they need a little game to help build that connection.

I’m more than happy to oblige with all the kisses and hugs and giggles they can stand because one day, in the not-so-distant future, kisses from mommy won’t be so great. No matter how fun I try to make it.

Boy mamas: how do you connect more with our little boys?