Well it’s May 2nd which means I’ve been a mother of three kids for one whole month! Well, technically I’ve been a mother of three since I found I was pregnant last summer, but you get the idea.
I wanted to take a minute to reflect on the last month, but who has a minute to think when you have three kids?!
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Or any kids for that matter??
So here are the thoughts I could muster while the kids are running around:
It’s just as hectic as I thought it would be…..
Three kids is a lot. A. LOT.
It’s funny because three of other things is not a lot. Three dollars, three pairs of shoes, three favorite purses. Not that many things.
But three kids. Watch out!! And I didn’t realize just how full the house would feel with three of them running around. It’s wonderful and I love it, but it’s chaotic. To say the least.
It’s also not as hectic as I thought it would be…
Ok now I have to play devils’ advocate. I was picturing myself at the end of every day with dirty clothes, messy hair, dishes piled up to the ceiling, and having eaten nothing but the crust from kids PB & J. But it hasn’t been like that at all.
My two older boys play together really well (they’re 4 & 1) and the baby naps so I manage to get a few things done around the house. I’ve even managed a shower most days! Pro tip: being able to have two hands so I can get things done is my secret weapon. My boba wrap is my favorite for this, it keeps baby Bear happy and I can make snacks for the other two!! I’ve linked the wrap that I use and have, mine is a different color though.
Now don’t get me wrong, I definitely have two baskets of clean laundry waiting to be folded, and even more dirty laundry waiting to be washed. There are always dirty dishes, and some days I do only eat the scraps from my kids’ plates. But that’s just normal mom life.
The days go by really, really fast….
My mom has always said to me “The days are long but the years are short.” And she’s 100% right. Sometimes I’m done with the day by 9:00 am, and yet my oldest is about to turn 5 in a month and I seriously can’t fathom where that time has gone.
But life with three kids is life in the fast lane, and now even the days are fast. Some mornings I look at the clock and we’re half way to nap time and we just finished breakfast!! So I’m learning to slow down, push the to do list off until later, and enjoy my kids.
My husband and I have a lot of financial sacrifices so I can stay home with our boys. I consider it a tremendous blessing and I don’t want to waste my days doing dishes when I could be digging in the mud!
Minivans are cool….
Once we found out we were having a third child we had two thoughts:
- Where will we put him?
- We’re going to need a bigger car!
So while my husband was home on his paternity leave we bought ourselves a minivan. Now, I’ve never been opposed to a minivan, they’re practical and in our case totally necessary. But let’s call a spade a spade, you lose a certain amount of cool points once you make the switch.
But we got one, it’s awesome, and now I just think about how much stuff I can fit in it! (Three kids, groceries, a double stroller, one diaper bag packed with enough clothes and diapers for days, and 2 parents is the record so far!)
My boys love each other….
The best part about surviving the chaos of what can often seem like way more than three kids, is watching my boys learn to love each other. And man do they love each other. Some times that love comes out as fighting or jealousy, but it’s there. And there is truly no greater pleasure as a parent than watching your kids play together, or beg to sleep in the same room, or make each other giggle.
Small moments like that remind me why I wanted more than one (or even two) kids. They remind me why the chaos is worth it.
So today the laundry will wait, the dishes can wait, and every other project and item on my to do list can wait. While I watch my boys love on each other and while I enjoy being their mother.
Because if there is one thing I’ve learned as a parent: it’s goes by really, really fast.